realmoffett wrote:
God bless, may the force be with you, and never call a wookiee "stupid".
Respectfully,
Moff
I like how you think Moff.

I'm not only a Wookiee, but I also play one on TV.
I do think it's about choice... It's a moral thing with the whole is the fetus "life" it's just a big fucking grey area If I've ever seen one because who can really say. We kill animals every day to eat them in order to survive... animals kill their young at times as well to survive... aren't humans just animals with bigger brains? That totally trivializes everything but let me share...
My wife had an abortion when she was young growing up in Cuba. In her case it was a result of 2 situations.
The first one was my father in law. She was 14 years old when it happened. Her boyfriend was a 15 year old I believe. Word around the campfire is that my father in law would've beat the ever loving shit out of this kid if he found out he was sleeping with his 14 year old daughter.
The second was that they literally could not afford to have another mouth to feed. As it was life was difficult for them to begin with, adding a child to their situation would've complicated things in a way that I could never understand. Things are rough in a country like Cuba where most of the population is thinking about how it is that they're gonna get their next meal... or a bit of gasoline for a car... etc.. etc... My parents are Cuban but they're already in their 70's so they are coming from a different era over there. I grew up in NYC's upper west side so I can't say that I can relate.
Her mother and her chose to go that route because of the situation.
However, with that being said, if my wife were to get pregnant now without us
planning for it... (We're in a situation in which money is tight.. you know typical early marriage stuff...)we agree that abortion would not be an option. After you've conceived life for the first time, it changes your perception of things.
We have a 2 year son... watching him grow and seeing how he develops has been the most rewarding experience in my life. Creating a life, and by that I don't mean the sexual aspect of it, is something that I could never really describe with the right words...I just couldn't do it justice... by having this child I have learned what unconditional love really is.
My son had a really bad cold last month. He was stuffed up all the time, chest full of phlem, fever... when he coughed and I heard the rattling and him losing breath, I felt
pure anguish. It would literally hurt me every time I heard him cough. I could see in his face that he felt awful and it was torture to me. After he got better I told my father that I understood what he meant when he said to me that being a father was a difficult thing. He then told me to wait until I
"walk into my son's room and find a shoebox full of pot in an acoustic guitar case..." Totally uncalled for, but I got his gist. (In retrospect it was real bad herb, but I had a shitload of it!!!!!)
I digress.
I couldn't imagine a life without my son and knowing that a 15 minute procedure could've stopped me from experiencing what I am now... I dunno.
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Just because the child/fetus/mass of tissue/ball of cells (whatever you like to call it to make yourself feel better) is conceived thru a criminal act does not make the new "lifeform" a criminal. Although the acts of rape and incest are two of the worst possible acts, it does not justify ending the "potential life" of another, IMO. The rapist should be punished, not the unborn. People try justify an abortion after rape because they lump the evil act in with the unwanted pregnancy. They are two totally seperate issues. No matter whether one act caused the other or not.
If god forbid she were to be raped, it would be a different situation. I speak for her because we've discussed this before at length. Granted the child would not be criminal, but the human psyche is a fucked up thing. One way or another that act of conception is going to be tied to that child forever. Would the mother treat her child different knowing that? Yes there is adoption, but how about carrying the child to term? Thinking about that act of conception day in and day out? Were I in that situation I really don't know what I would do.
I'm content with the fact that there is a
choice. It's a difficult one, and a moral one as well, but it's a choice.
If Im all over the place please forgive me as I am a little high. I felt the overwhelming need to share, but I'll go back to lurking now and interject every once in a while.
